Every relationship is a sacred dance. There are moments when partners are so aligned that they move as one. At other times, they struggle over who is leading and step on each other’s toes. Peace and success in life require us to be masters of relationships.
Several essential principles support healthy relationships. Integrate these basic tenets into your view of yourself and the people in your life, and you will experience a renewed sense of freedom and optimism in your relationships.
1. We are responsible for our own emotional life.
If we are to experience comfortable, nourishing relationships, we have to relinquish the idea that someone else can make us feel a certain way. If we hold another person responsible when we are upset, we surrender our power, which makes us less capable of creating the outcome we seek. If there is something that is lacking in one of your core relationships, cast off the role of victim and commit to creating the love you deserve.
2. Healthy relationships are based upon a deep rooted conviction in equality.
Ego-rooted relationships reinforce insecurities. When one person criticizes, demeans, or asserts authority over another, it may temporarily improve the self-esteem of one by lowering another’s, but this assumption of power is always vulnerable. Relationships based upon mutual respect liberate energy that becomes available for creativity.
This principle is of particular importance when the relationship is between an adult and a child. It is essential for the parent to recognize the child’s equality on the level of the soul. If this intention is present throughout children’s upbringing, they will develop a sense of dignity and respect that will serve them throughout their lives.
3. Conscious communication builds nurturing relationships.
Determine what you need and ask for it. Teach the people in your family to identify their needs and express themselves in ways that increase the likelihood that their needs will be met.
Show your children how to get needs met without resorting to emotional escalation. Your behavior provides the most compelling lesson.
4. Give what you seek.
Human beings have four basic needs in a relationship: attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance. We give attention by making eye contact. We express affection by connecting physically with sensitivity and permission. We demonstrate appreciation by telling and showing people that they add value to our lives. We provide acceptance by cultivating an internal conversation of recognizing ourselves in the other and the other in ourselves.
Be generous with the people in your life and you will spontaneously see these expressions returning to you in kind. If you have children, shower them with attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance and watch them flourish.
5. Remember that life is short.
Enjoy what you have. Don’t waste time indulging in petty grievances. We sometimes avoid healing our relationships, because we anticipate there will be plenty of time in the future. Do what you can from your side to create peace now. Free your heart from grievances and regrets now. Do not allow your present to be trapped in the past.
According to a survey， more than two thirds of people in China agree that， the public moral level is lower than before. This figure， although hard to accept， has indicated the fact that the nation’s overall morality is declining. If you pay some attention， you could easily point out some improper behaviors happening around: young men refusing to give seats to the old on buses; shoppers jamming into queue instead of waiting in line; crude riders neglecting red lights， etc. So what the hell is going on?
As analysts have figured out， this trend of degradation mainly originated from faulty education. For decades， Chinese schools simply infuse bookish knowledge to their students， whilst moral cultivation becomes a kind of formalism; on the other hand， children are naturally influenced by their family and other adults in the society， most of whom are too sophisticated to be considered as eligible moral models.
Facing such disappointing condition， you may ask: how can things become better? As far as I am concerned， we must following these three steps. First of all: self-shaping. We should manage ourselves well， and try to shape our own morality as perfect as possible. The second step: family-shaping， which is to behave as the model for your children and improve their moral status through strict discipline. The third: organization-shaping. If you are leading people， such as being a manager or national president， you could reinforce your whole organization’s moral situation with policy and your own action. Even if you’re no leader， you’ll have a positive impact on the society if only you manage yourself well and try to influence others as much as possible.
Robert is 21 years old.He is about 5 feet ,9 inches tall .His face is long and narrow .His eyes are green.His hair is light brown.He doesn't look very Italian.He smiles a little and usually has a friendly look on his face .He isn't fat and he isn't thin.His build is average.译文 罗伯特21岁了,他身高大约5.9英尺,脸瘦瘦长长的,绿眼睛.浅棕色的头发,看起来不大像意大利人.他总是面带微笑,非常友好.他不胖也不瘦,中等身材
My English teacher,Mr.Jones,is a middle-aged man with thick glasses above his nose.We all like his classes,for he is always very active and has many ways to make his lessons lively and interesting.After class,he often plays table tennis with us.And at night,he usually works late and prepares the lessons carefully.When we told him that we had passed the entrance examination of senior middle school,he was so happy that he jumped like a child.We all get along well with him.All of us still miss him very much after we have left the junior middle school.
As middle school students, we have to learn how to properly behave. The codes of conduct for us are as follows.
Firstly, being polite and friendly to other people, both the teachers and the fellow students. secondly, all of us students are responsible for the maintaining of a beautiful campus environment, so that we have an appealing place to stay at and study in. thirdly, each of us are supposed to pass attend the classes on time and finish the assignments in a timely way.
And finally, we should spare no efforts to glorify the excellent virtues of Chinese people.
Nowadays people are becoming increasingly aware of the importance of quality-oriented education.
As far as I’m concerned, the principal difference between exam-oriented education and quality-oriented education is their purpose. They aim at improve students’ skills whether particular for exams or ready for all kinds of challenges in the future. My idea stems generally from two aspects as follows.First, we students are under the pressure of many examinations, such as college entrance examination. This is a fact and everyone should admit it. To improve students’ score, teachers and parents concentrate on developing their skills for exams. In this case, students may gain high marks and get further study.
However, will they manage to overcome challenges and difficulties in the future? No one knows the answer.Second, quality-oriented education mainly aims at improving students’ skills not only for study but also for many other activities. In that case, students may have their own hobbies and abilities so that they can use their intelligence and labor to deal with all kinds of difficulties and challenges.In conclusion, quality-oriented education may make our students excellent people, both good at study and coping other kinds of things. Let’s attach much importance to it!