Last week I lost my lunch money my mother gave me. I was worried and sad. My best friend Xiaomei gave me her only 10 yuan and told me that was her pocket money. I believed that. Then I knew the money was saved by her from breakfast and she wanted to buy a new bag. It moved me.
In our daily lives, we all hate people who lie to you. We often regard those who tell lies out of some ulterior motive associated with something bad and consider those people as being dishonest and persons who cannot be trusted. But not all lies are out of indecent motive and all "liers" are bad persons. On certain occasions, out of necessity, we simply cannot tell the truth but have to lie with good rather than bad intentions. To "lie with good intentions" is very common and almost all of us have done it. In evaluating another person, we more than often do not tell the truth or speak out what we truly think about the other person for purposes of trying not to hurt the feelings of the person being evaluated. Even though s/he looks ugly, we often tend to lie to her or him. "You look great!" "You are so pretty/handsome." In essence, in judging the nature of lies, we need to determine the intentions behind the lies, some with bad intentions and some with good intentions, and we should judge people who tell lies accordingly.
In English a white lie means a lie of good intention. But whether people should tell a white lie remains controversial. A case in point is that whether the doctor should inform the patient about the true condition of his illness when he is suffering an incurable disease. Just as shown in the picture, the doctor is now caught in a dilemma. He can’t decide whether he should tell or conceal the patient’s serious condition.
Some people hold that telling patients about their true conditions mayrisk destroying their hope, which may make the illness even worse. So it’sbetter to tell the patient a white lie. People against this view argue thata while lie is after all a lie. The patients should be informed of theircondition since it is their legal right to know the truth of the fact.
Lies have been recognized as a synonym for cheating and hypocrisy and liars are often held in contempt. However, sometimes we need lies in real life, because a white lie can give one comfort and encouragement. If a
seriously ill patient, on hearing your while lie, can refresh himself to fight against the illness, don’t you think your lie is meaningful?
Recently, I find it’s more and more useful to tell white lies, especially to our family or friends. Because white lies more or less can make them comfortable.
Take my parents for example. They always worry about me. Now I’m far away from home. As long as I have something wrong, they’ll become very anxious. For sure, I do have some trouble sometimes, but what I usually tell them is I’m just ok, please don’t worry.
Similarly, if one of my friends show me her new dress, I’ll say “ah, it’s pretty well!”, or, “hmm. I think it’s quite fit you.” My praise makes both of us happy.
So why not tell some white lies to the persons who you love and make your relationship closer? I think it a good idea.